Three Things Successful People Do
How do you position yourself for greater success? A focus on these three key to success will get you on your way.
“It’s a fact that our success and happiness in life is less determined by our circumstances than by our ability to understand, accept and manage ourselves.” – Joe Caruso
Let’s explore these three keys to success:
1) Understanding ourselves isn’t as easy as it may seem.
While Popeye’s claim, “I am what I am,” may make it sound like a simple concept, there are two big reasons why understanding ourselves is a challenging task.
Firstly: We lie to ourselves, about ourselves, every single day. This self-deception is perpetuated for any number of reasons: in order to make ourselves feel better, to avoid the discomfort that seeing something for what it really is can cause us, or out of ignorance, pride, or prejudice.
Secondly: Once these false lenses are in place, everything we view is impacted because we view everything through our own sense of self. While our self-view may feel like the truth, we would be wise to honestly ask ourselves if it’s the whole truth and nothing but the truth.
2) Accepting ourselves can also be a challenge.
Most of us are our own worst critics. As a small example, consider how rare it is to meet someone who has accepted their physical attributes rather than complain about them. Accepting ourselves as we are does not necessarily mean that we lose our will or desire to improve our situation and ourselves. It simply means that for the moment, we accept the reality that is now. This allows us to be more peaceful and happier in the moment, granting us the energy to strengthen our resolve to make changes for the future.
How can that be bad?
3) Managing ourselves is hard.
Most of us seek comfort over happiness. If we don’t regularly make time for edifying things like reading, spending quality time with friends and family, exercising, spending time alone in reflection, etc., I guarantee that your days will fill up with less than edifying things that leave you wanting.
I plan on working even harder this year at understanding, accepting and managing myself. It’s something I’ve been committed to since I was 18 years old and it hasn’t let me down yet. In fact, each year seems to get better and better.
I wish you great success as you work toward a better understanding, acceptance, and management of the most important thing in your life—yourself.