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Category Archives: Success Strategies

Define Yourself! Lessons from the Land of Oz

Joe uncovers more about Success Strategy # 7 – “Define Yourself” using the Allegory of the Wizard of Oz

The tin man longed for a heart, the lion wanted courage and the scarecrow would have been happy if he only had a brain.

Along with their new friend Dorothy, they ventured out on a dangerous journey looking for that missing element that would complete their lives and bring them happiness.

Of course, we all know how this beloved movie-classic ended. They all learned (even the Wizard himself) that true happiness doesn’t lie in anything external, but rather in understanding, accepting and managing oneself. The biggest lesson of this life’s journey is learning to be true to your heart. There really is no place like home.

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Now is Always Perfect

Wherever you are right now may not be ideal, but it is always perfect, because it is perfect reality. For you to be where you are right now, everything in the past had to have happened exactly as it did. Any reality at any point in time is always the culmination of everything that has transpired up to that point.

Problems Come When We Associate What is Perfect With What is Ideal

Webster’s New Collegiate Dictionary defines perfect as “having all the properties that naturally belong to it.” And the perfect tense of a verb expresses “the action or state as completed at a time denoted.” As humans, we tend to have problems when we begin to associate what is perfect with what is ideal. The ideal is a projection of our desire, based on our definitions of ourselves, but that ideal is not always (not even usually) what’s occurring in the present. And since as sentient human beings we are always in the process of growing and changing, there can be nothing more perfect in the future than what is right now.

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Love Has Nothing to Do With Being Wanted or Needed – That’s Insecurity

Uncovering Success Strategies – Success Strategy # 24

Know that love has nothing to do with being wanted or needed…that’s insecurity.” –  Joe Caruso

The ultimate relationship does not consist of two people who “need” each other. Whether between two lovers, a parent and a child or a teacher and a student, successful relationships are not and never will be based on need. Need is based in dependency. Dependency on anything other than yourself and your faith is unhealthy. The best thing anyone can do for someone they love is to strive for success and happiness in their own life and to encourage their partner or loved one to do the same. Show me a relationship that is based on need and I’ll show you a relationship that breeds and nurtures insecurity. And, as you know, insecurity is based on fear, and fear is the opposite of love. As insecure and fearful humans, we tend to find comfort in the feeling that someone needs us, or that someone will take care of us, but I must stress that this is an unhealthy basis for a relationship–for both parties.

If need is at the foundation of your relationship, that’s insecurity, and that’s not a healthy base. Click to Tweet

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Why Egocentricity Is Your Biggest Enemy

Success Strategy # 12 – Realize that egocentricity is your biggest enemy.

We have a tendency to look at the world only in terms of how it affects us directly. This egocentricity is detrimental to our success. The more selfish we are, the less we get out of life. The more we realize we are here to help care for, nurture and support others, the more positive and powerful we can become. Almost all forms of depression are a form of egocentricity and selfishness. You can’t be successful and happy and be egocentric. Egocentricity is a major cause in depression, unhappiness and most other forms of self-destructive behavior.

When the famous psychiatrist Dr. Karl Menninger was speaking at an event, he was asked what advice he would give to a person on the verge of a nervous breakdown. He was expected to reply, “Consult a psychiatrist.” To the astonishment of all in attendance, he instead replied, “Lock up your house, go across the railroad tracks, find someone in need and do something to help that person.”

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Your Attitude Determines How People Treat You

Uncovering Success Strategies – More About Success Strategy #6

Admit that your thoughts, attitudes, behaviors and actions determine who’s in your life and how they treat you.” — Joe Caruso

Our attitudes about ourselves will determine whom we attract. I know that this is a pretty bold statement, but let’s examine it. Have you ever known someone who left an abusive or unhealthy relationship, only to find himself or herself in another one? It’s not magic. It’s not coincidence. It’s due to the fact that the attitudes these people have about themselves are that they deserve abusive relationships. At the same time, the abuser is actually looking for someone with just this attitude. They attract each other.

How is this so?

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The Secret to Mastery? You Can Get There from Here

On one of my earliest trips to Italy in the 1990s, I had the wonderful opportunity to view some of the most beautiful and highly regarded works of art in the world. I was particularly touched by the mastery of Michelangelo.

As I stared in awe at the statue of David, I couldn’t help but remember the story about the woman who approached Michelangelo to compliment his work.

After seeing the beauty, the power and the magnificence of the life-like marble statue of David, she said to the artist, “Your mastery is quite impressive.”

Michelangelo replied simply, “Woman, if you knew how hard I worked for my mastery, you wouldn’t be so impressed.”

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Life is perfect and everything is on schedule

Uncovering Success Strategies – More About Success Strategy #30

Understand that life is perfect, and everything is on schedule.” – Joe Caruso

Life isn’t always what we want it to be. Nonetheless, it is reality. To not see life as perfect is not to accept reality. Someone who doesn’t accept reality is someone who is flirting with insanity. A good gauge of our mental wellness can be how well we’re accepting reality at any point in time.

More often than I’d care to count, I have been delayed by air travel. When I wrote this article, I was sitting on a plane. The plane was sitting at the gate. We were about five minutes away from take-off when the captain informed us that due to crosswinds in Detroit (my destination), our departure would be delayed by two hours. Not a perfect situation. However, it was my reality and I couldn’t change it. Once I accepted the situation, I decided that it would be an excellent opportunity to pull out my laptop and work on my book. Once I started writing I realized that my crazy travel schedule and client commitments had prevented me from having any time to write my book. With upcoming travel and vacations, I wasn’t going to have much time in the coming weeks to write either. What a perfect opportunity to keep my deadline for finishing the next chapter of my book.

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Trust and the Big Lie

The power of trust is determined by the giver.” – Joe Caruso

Faith in anything…an outcome, your myth, God, or whatever you place your faith in, will require trust. There are many misconceptions about trust and how it works.

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Cherish the chase as much as the trophy

Uncovering Success Strategies – More about Success Strategy # 29

Cherish the chase as much as you treasure the trophy.  – Joe Caruso

We sometimes work so hard to achieve a particular goal that we forget that success is at least as much about enjoying the process as it is about achievement. Goals are necessary to a successful life. According to the Austrian psychiatrist Wilhelm Reich, all biological organisms build up energy that seeks discharge. This discharge can either be directed or random. Goals create direction for the discharge of energy, thereby providing meaningful structure to our lives. To abandon all goals is to abandon order.

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Respond Intelligently, Even to the Unintelligent

Rule: Respond intelligently even to the unintelligent.

How do you get to the point where you are almost impervious to petty personal attacks—either real or perceived? You have to practice responding rather than reacting with every opportunity. With each successful application you gain a victory over your ego. Each small victory will build upon the next, until this behavior pattern manifests itself and becomes apparent in your character.

Our wise old friend Lao Tzu offers helpful words on how to stay focused and learn to accept and deal with whatever type of person or situation is in front of you.

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