More importantly, may all of us truly learn the impact and importance that bringing a little thanksgiving to every day of our lives can bring. Gratitude is nutrition for the soul and can suppress the anxiety and intellectual indigestion that events, especially the holidays, can often bring us.
This September I had a unique opportunity to join people together from the intersection of the fields of my life’s work: business / leadership and psychology / psychoanalysis.
A few longtime friends and mentors in the field of psychoanalysis, Dr. Joe Lichtenberg (along with Mady Chalk), as well as Dr. Curtis Bristol and his wife Marie Drissel, all came to Detroit to spend time with me and my wife Carol, to walk the grounds of our home, to visit the Detroit Institute of Arts and the Detroit Athletic Club downtown, and to celebrate “idea”. We were also pleased to be joined by a bright young leader in the education industry, Dr. Shawn Mahoney, one of my leadership mentees.
In addition to the wonderful conversation and amazing food and drink, we had the opportunity to discuss several upcoming publications, news of which I want to share here.
“The genesis of many of our problems is that too many of us are peering into the murky future of our secondary world, hoping that there will be something “out there” to finally make us happy.
But in fact, we ought to be looking inward, because the source of true happiness is always available to us. It lies in how we choose to respond to those external circumstances — in our ability to understand, accept, and manage ourselves. This is what will determine how we go about finding our meaning and what kind of higher meaning we can find for ourselves.”
– Joe Caruso, The Power of Losing Control, Chapter 8
A compelling quote from Agnes Repplier on taking this journey:
Understanding the why behind the what of our own person (our character) is a key step on this journey:
More About Turning our Journey Inward to a Higher Meaning
- Define Yourself! Lessons from the Land of Oz
- Primary and Secondary World (You Only Have Control Over One)
- Three Keys to Success
- Happiness / Success
- Cherish the Chase As Much As You Treasure the Trophy
Or, get the book!
In my work with leadership teams and developing young leadership talent, it is true that those who experience the greatest growth and success are the individuals that commit to the process. A decision without a commitment can often end in less than optimal results or even failure. (More about decision vs. commitment).
Many of my clients are CEOs and senior-level leaders. They live in a world of incredible pressure to reach their goals with market challenges and internal conflicts flying at them at great speed. In this fast-paced business environment, it is easy and even understandable to take a reactive approach. But as all great leaders (and great parents and great teachers) learn, it is always better to respond than react.
(Context is the general that lends meaning to the specific.)
Sound bites. Headline grabbers. Head-turning quotes. All in the hope that the content goes viral. This is what drives today’s “news”.
While these dramatic, if not misleading headlines might pull eyeballs, turn ears and gain air time with their shock value, they do a huge disservice to those of us trying to find news where we can get facts, figures, as well as interpretation and analysis by an ‘expert’ in the field. [Of course many of us know enough to understand that bias always plays a role, and you must always consider the source…as discussed in my previous article about bias and fact vs. fiction].
In a day and age where Russian bots influence what’s trending, spin gets typed up in 280 characters or less, and the term ‘fake news’ is bandied about when someone doesn’t like what they are hearing, it is refreshing to see reporting that is grounded in fact, understands historical context, and attempts to acknowledge the culture.
This article is about a storytelling device known as a macguffin. As you enjoy reading about how film directors and writers have used macguffins for years, possibly in some of your favorite movies, try to keep track of how many times I use the word “good” in the article below.
A Storytelling Device To Move the Plot Forward
A macguffin is described as a plot device that propels a story forward. A macguffin can be an object that is valuable in and of itself such as a diamond, an artifact or an expensive piece of artwork. Or the macguffin can be valuable in that it is an object or person of interest, such as something containing valuable data or secrets. A macguffin can also be an ideal such as power, love, or glory.
Examples of Macguffin
We Seek Happiness, But Happiness, Like Success, is Elusive
Above any other goal, humans seek happiness. Aristotle came to this conclusion more than 2,300 years ago when he reasoned that happiness is sought for its own sake, whereas every other goal – health, wealth, power and others – is only valued because we expect that it will bring us happiness.
While much has changed since Aristotle came to this conclusion, one could argue that we are no closer to understanding and teaching the path to happiness than the ancients. That is Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi’s argument in a book called Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience. Dr. Csikszentmihalyi (pronounced chick-sent-me-hi) states that happiness,
“…is not something that just happens. It is not a result of good fortune or random chance. It is not something that money can buy or power can control. It is, in fact, a condition that must be prepared for, cultivated and defended privately by each person.”
To seek happiness is to grab water. Not only do we feel continually frustrated by our failure, we also feel miserable in the process. Another way to state this: happiness is a byproduct, not an end product.
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A case for more organizations to identify and grow leaders from within. How does one ever know their capacities until they’re tested?
A common complaint from senior-level management in many companies is the lack of leadership skills demonstrated by their employees, which they note as:
- independent thinking
- creative problem-solving
- analytical thinking
- effective communication
When I assisted a Los Angeles-based client with this issue, I began by looking for the future leaders within the company. I was looking for employees who might currently be underutilized, untested, underdeveloped or even unseen.
“Understand that all of your emotions are based in either fear or love.”
– Joe Caruso, Success Strategy #2
“Know that you can’t experience hatred without also experiencing fear.”
-Joe Caruso, Success Strategy #35
When we understand that all of our emotions stem from either fear or love, we can begin to acknowledge how our insecurities and fears determine how we might respond to people or events in our lives. When we feel hate, or respond with hatred, it is always based in fear. This begs the question – what is it that we fear, and why do we fear it?
I recently had the honor of addressing 700 Navy attorneys (both civilian and military) on the topic of leadership in a time of change. Immediately before my talk, the Acting Secretary of the Navy, the Honorable Sean J. Stackley, addressed the audience on the main context for the event – ‘Gamechangers: Transforming the Present and Future.’
“Don’t avoid risk. You’ll get nothing done. Understand risk and manage risk.”
–Acting Secretary of the Navy Sean J. Stackley
It’s difficult to talk about change without bringing up the concept of risk. Why? Because of our natural human tendency, based on the way our minds function, to operate in a sameness pattern. We resist change, which generally means we avoid taking risks. The well-worn pathways of our brain’s neural networks feel as natural as our most comfortable pair of blue jeans. Why change what is comfortable? Read more »